n the past, I’ve tried every logistical strategy to make the time change easier. I tried adjusting bedtime by ten minutes every night. I tried staying up later to make me tired enough to fall asleep earlier.

None of these strategies was ever a surefire bet. Honestly, it sometimes just felt like dumb luck when they would work or not. I'll never forget the time I realized I’d worked super diligently to adjust our bedtimes, only to screw them up two weeks later when we spent a week in a time zone three hours ahead of ours!

Now that I have an EMPOWERED plate, I feel in control of my day, no matter what else is going on around me. This time change is POWERLESS to affect me; it's like water rolling off a duck’s back.

This morning, my family was SO tired from the time change—but we did great! Despite all that should have stressed me out, like dragging myself and my son out of bed a whole hour earlier after a night of all of us feeling wide awake for hours past normal bedtime, NONE OF THAT stood in my way this morning.

That’s because I was fueled up. My soul was fed. And I was fired up—not burnt out.

I didn’t yell. I didn’t lose my temper. I didn’t utter one unkind, grumpy word through my sleepy state. Usually, it’s those of us in charge, running the show, who are at the greatest risk of losing our cool before we’ve even gotten out the door (“For the 5th time, just put your shoes on or no dessert tonight!!”).

Sure, our kids might melt down at the sight of slightly overcrisped toast for breakfast. But when I’m fueled up, it’s like I can access this invisible supply of more time, energy, and support, and I can handle anything! When I’m starting the day feeling depleted… well, let’s just say it’s a lose-lose scenario for everybody.

I know it doesn't seem like 10 minutes of listening to a simple audio MP3 can save my whole day, but taking a few fast minutes to regulate my nervous system changes the game. It takes the unnecessary, unpleasant, and unhelpful things I don’t want OFF my plate so I can make room for what I DO want.

Stop trying to get more done with less energy. Start getting MORE with LESS EFFORT.

If you’re feeling behind from that one less hour yesterday, tired from how it threw off your routine, or wishing that you didn’t feel set up for failure by things out of your control—like a clock—listen to our simple energy clearing. It’s fast, it’s free, and it INSTANTLY gets you back to feeling calm, cool, and in control of your plate.

Happy today everyone! Last time I talked about an important mindset shift for survival holiday chaos: being the anchor for your family instead of the cruise director. And as helpful as that mindset shift has been for me, it’s only part of the puzzle for riding the waves without loosing my cool. Today we’re looking at the game plan for how to stay anchored when the ship hits the sugar-fueled storm…

(remember, it doesn’t have to be a perfect Halloween in order to be pretty darn good)

Sometimes the worst parenting power struggles happen after Halloween—all those fights about the candy. So instead of getting into that tug of war, let's drop the rope before the struggle even happens. The best way to do this is to have a simple, collaborative, and pre-communicated plan before trick-or-treating even starts.

And the most important thing to remember in making a plan is that you are the most qualified person to make one for your family. Just because the family down the street has one plan for managing Halloween candy doesn't mean that same plan is going to work for your family. I have a kid who once discovered orange juice in the fridge, thought it was amazing, and snuck into the back bathroom to wedge himself between the toilet and the wall to drink it all. Needless to say, free-range access to the candy bowl probably isn't going to work for my family, and that's okay.

Decide what sounds like it might work for you and give it a try. The way you can make it more successful is simply by talking about it beforehand. Kids like to know what to expect, and if there are any opportunities where you can collaborate with them, they're going to have that much more buy-in, which is the key to preventing tantrums and meltdowns. Find places they can make a choice, even a choice as small as, "Hey, if I give you a candy in your lunchbox tomorrow, would you like a chocolatey candy or a fruity candy?" That can go such a long way.

This is my favorite tip by far. The best thing about savoring holiday fun is that you don’t have to strictly follow the calendar. There are no Halloween police that come into your house on November 1st saying, “Alright, time to clear all this spooky stuff out - no more ghosts and candy corn, we gotta get ready for the next things!!”

I have a friend who used to live in Leavenworth, WA - a small touristy town that looks like a magical Bavarian village. They go all out at Christmas time and it draws in a huge holiday crowd from all over the state. But what my friend loves to point out is that the beautiful lights and festivities keep going (and are just as beautiful) after Christmas up until New Years.

There are no rules saying you have to do all of the Halloween stuff before Oct. 31st - you are allowed to slow down before the holiday and give yourself time afterwards to do some of the fun and special things you might not have time or energy to do beforehand. Why jam them all together when you can slow down and savor them instead?

This applies to all kinds of holiday overwhelm and expectations for things we want to do during a certain holiday, but run out of time (I wrote about capturing this treasured memento after Christmas one year in this old newsletter… it still makes my heart sing ever year I unpack it, I’m so glad I didn’t let the calendar keep me from missing out on this!) 

Didn’t get to watch Hocus Pocus or make that crescent roll mummy hot dog dinner that your mom used to make you when you were a kid? Plan a mid-November family movie night - it’ll still be fun, and it’s a perfect way to reduce holiday stress by spreading it out.

This is especially easy when you’ve got young children. They literally have no concept of what day it is. For years we’ve held Christmas on days other than Dec. 25th so we could celebrate with family (my kid was none the wiser, not that he would have cared at that age). To me it’s no different than waiting until the weekend after a birthday to hold a birthday party, something that’s pretty widely accepted.