<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" ?><!-- generator=Zoho Sites --><rss version="2.0" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/"><channel><atom:link href="https://www.theparentempowermentmovement.com/blogs/tag/holiday-perfectionism/feed" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><title>The Parent Empowerment Movement - Blog #holiday perfectionism</title><description>The Parent Empowerment Movement - Blog #holiday perfectionism</description><link>https://www.theparentempowermentmovement.com/blogs/tag/holiday-perfectionism</link><lastBuildDate>Thu, 12 Mar 2026 18:15:42 -0700</lastBuildDate><generator>http://zoho.com/sites/</generator><item><title><![CDATA[3 Christmas Fails that Aren’t Failures: Beating Holiday Perfectionism]]></title><link>https://www.theparentempowermentmovement.com/blogs/post/christmas-fails-holiday-perfectionism</link><description><![CDATA[<img align="left" hspace="5" src="https://www.theparentempowermentmovement.com/Blog post images -8-.jpg"/>Feeling like you failed Christmas? Discover why 3 common holiday 'fails' are actually wins for the 'good enough' parent. Ditch the perfectionism today.]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="zpcontent-container blogpost-container "><div data-element-id="elm_q3t75DxeSNSj5s6VSiCG4w" data-element-type="section" class="zpsection "><style type="text/css"></style><div class="zpcontainer-fluid zpcontainer"><div data-element-id="elm_ovzKpoZLQsGdzJuGlkmm3w" data-element-type="row" class="zprow zprow-container zpalign-items- zpjustify-content- " data-equal-column=""><style type="text/css"></style><div data-element-id="elm_3CA2mxheS06Fk2q-ZtbB2g" data-element-type="column" class="zpelem-col zpcol-12 zpcol-md-12 zpcol-sm-12 zpalign-self- "><style type="text/css"></style><div data-element-id="elm_5ZzBk0FYvtsiTrgM0MQ8Ow" data-element-type="video" class="zpelement zpelem-video "><style type="text/css"> @media (max-width: 767px) { [data-element-id="elm_5ZzBk0FYvtsiTrgM0MQ8Ow"].zpelem-video iframe.zpvideo{ width:560px !important; height:315px !important; } } @media all and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width:991px){ [data-element-id="elm_5ZzBk0FYvtsiTrgM0MQ8Ow"].zpelem-video iframe.zpvideo{ width:560px !important; height:315px !important; } } </style><div class="zpvideo-container zpiframe-align-center zpiframe-mobile-align-center zpiframe-tablet-align-center"><iframe class="zpvideo " width="560" height="315" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/kcn3mM7v5fU?enablejsapi=1" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen id=youtube-video-1 data-api=youtube></iframe></div>
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 class="zpheading zpheading-style-type1 zpheading-align-center zpheading-align-mobile-center zpheading-align-tablet-center " data-editor="true"><span style="font-style:italic;"><span>I dug this out of the archives, and it's exactly what I needed to read today - and I thought you might need it too!&nbsp;<span>I wrote this to our newsletter list 3 years ago, and I think it's&nbsp;</span></span></span><span style="font-style:italic;"><span><span>arguably MORE relevant now than it was then.</span></span></span><br/><span style="font-style:italic;">​</span><span style="font-style:italic;"><span><span>Happy reading and Happy Holidays!&nbsp;</span></span></span><span style="font-style:italic;"><span><span style="font-style:italic;">- Jenny</span></span></span></h6></div>
<div data-element-id="elm_3NRBzX9qRWWO2kUSPR9utA" data-element-type="text" class="zpelement zpelem-text "><style></style><div class="zptext zptext-align-center zptext-align-mobile-center zptext-align-tablet-center " data-editor="true"><p></p><div><div style="text-align:left;">Anyone else watch “Bad Mom’s Christmas?” Felicia and I love it - my favorite part is the opening narration that calls out how ridiculously hard dedicated parents work to make the holidays&nbsp;<u>the best</u>&nbsp;it can possibly be for our kids - and how impossible it is to live up to this standard!</div><div style="text-align:left;">&nbsp;</div><div style="text-align:left;">It’s no secret that there’s a lot of pressure we put on ourselves, and that society puts on us. Here are 3 ways to take some of it off of this past Christmas and the ones to come:</div></div><p></p></div>
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            theme:dark"><figure role="none" class="zpimage-data-ref"><span class="zpimage-anchor" role="link" tabindex="0" aria-label="Open Lightbox" style="cursor:pointer;"><picture><img class="zpimage zpimage-style-none zpimage-space-none " src="/images/IMG_9601.JPG" size="small" alt="30 year old handmade ornaments my family made during my parents' brilliant &quot;Hail Mary&quot; move to save Christmas when they thought it had been ruined." data-lightbox="true"/></picture></span></figure><div class="zpimage-text zpimage-text-align-left zpimage-text-align-mobile-left zpimage-text-align-tablet-left " data-editor="true"><p></p><div><div>When I was 7 years old my family moved over Christmas time, and ALL of our Christmas decorations were stuck in storage! Buying all new things was out of the question, and my parents hated the idea of one of my childhood Christmases being anything but magical. Luckily we were an artsy craftsy family. So, together, we all made ornaments out of wrapping paper, sparkly pipe cleaners, and a big roll of holographic snowflake stickers that still lives on in my craft closet!</div><div>&nbsp;</div><div>What started out as a disaster became a very special and memorable Christmas. Almost 30 years later, the ornaments that lasted are some of my most cherished ones on my tree.</div></div><div><br/></div><div><div><div><i>(I actually just recorded a whole <a href="https://youtu.be/kcn3mM7v5fU" title="YouTube video" target="_blank" rel="">YouTube video</a> about this specific idea—<a href="https://youtu.be/kcn3mM7v5fU" title="link" target="_blank" rel="">link</a>)</i>.<br/></div></div></div><p></p></div>
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<div data-element-id="elm_jGlTBxehR2iRmEY_dJ7vig" data-element-type="imagetext" class="zpelement zpelem-imagetext "><style> @media (min-width: 992px) { [data-element-id="elm_jGlTBxehR2iRmEY_dJ7vig"] .zpimagetext-container figure img { width: 200px ; height: 266.67px ; } } </style><div data-size-tablet="" data-size-mobile="" data-align="right" data-tablet-image-separate="false" data-mobile-image-separate="false" class="zpimagetext-container zpimage-with-text-container zpimage-align-right zpimage-tablet-align-center zpimage-mobile-align-center zpimage-size-small zpimage-tablet-fallback-fit zpimage-mobile-fallback-fit hb-lightbox " data-lightbox-options="
            type:fullscreen,
            theme:dark"><figure role="none" class="zpimage-data-ref"><span class="zpimage-anchor" role="link" tabindex="0" aria-label="Open Lightbox" style="cursor:pointer;"><picture><img class="zpimage zpimage-style-none zpimage-space-none " src="/images/IMG_9600.JPG" size="small" alt="The art print I made of my son's Mistle-toe feet. My favorite Christmas decoration, even though I made it in January." data-lightbox="true"/></picture></span></figure><div class="zpimage-text zpimage-text-align-left zpimage-text-align-mobile-left zpimage-text-align-tablet-left " data-editor="true"><p></p><div><div>There are usually more quintessential Christmas activities we want (or feel pressured) to do than we have time for in December. Likely, you had to skip something you didn't actually want to skip because you ran out of time and energy. But guess what? Most of them you can still do!</div><div>&nbsp;</div><div>It’s a simple thought, but most of us get so caught up trying to make Christmas feel perfect that we forget rational concepts like this. It felt like an epiphany to me when I had this thought the year my son was one. I really wanted to make a “mistle-toes” art print with his little feet, but was way too tired before Christmas to do it (normally I’m a scrooge about hand and foot print art, but this one hits right me in the holiday feels). But on Jan. 15th the light bulb came on, and I just did it!</div><div>&nbsp;</div><div>The following Christmas, when I unwrapped that sentimental treasure, I was even more proud of myself for following through on doing something important to me than ever before! Now when I look at his little green footprints I feel both mama joy AND pride in breaking free from the limiting belief that things must be done on one set timeline.</div></div><div><br/></div><div></div><p></p><div><div><div><div><span style="font-style:italic;">(If you listened to last week's <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ber-months-how-to-survive-the-holiday-rush/id1839017817?i=1000738997844" title="podcast episode" target="_blank" rel="">podcast episode</a>&nbsp;about <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ber-months-how-to-survive-the-holiday-rush/id1839017817?i=1000738997844" target="_blank" rel="">surviving the &quot;ber&quot; months without holiday burn out</a>, you know this story well! It's the legend of the January Footprints - cause I STILL feel crazy proud of not letting an imaginary deadline keep me from having something I love!)</span><br/></div></div></div></div></div>
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<div data-element-id="elm_rCmcokf9s40jK6zyS4LffQ" data-element-type="imagetext" class="zpelement zpelem-imagetext "><style> @media (min-width: 992px) { [data-element-id="elm_rCmcokf9s40jK6zyS4LffQ"] .zpimagetext-container figure img { width: 200px ; height: 266.67px ; } } </style><div data-size-tablet="" data-size-mobile="" data-align="left" data-tablet-image-separate="false" data-mobile-image-separate="false" class="zpimagetext-container zpimage-with-text-container zpimage-align-left zpimage-tablet-align-center zpimage-mobile-align-center zpimage-size-small zpimage-tablet-fallback-fit zpimage-mobile-fallback-fit hb-lightbox " data-lightbox-options="
            type:fullscreen,
            theme:dark"><figure role="none" class="zpimage-data-ref"><span class="zpimage-anchor" role="link" tabindex="0" aria-label="Open Lightbox" style="cursor:pointer;"><picture><img class="zpimage zpimage-style-none zpimage-space-none " src="/images/IMG_8498.jpg" size="small" alt="Me sitting on a stool to journal while my son is busy having fun counting his bath toys at bath time. Sometimes our best moments for self-care are when we're living life side by side our kids." data-lightbox="true"/></picture></span></figure><div class="zpimage-text zpimage-text-align-left zpimage-text-align-mobile-left zpimage-text-align-tablet-left " data-editor="true"><p></p><div><div><div><div>Parents have to be more creative and flexible than others in figuring out how we make time for reflection. Still, it's an important &quot;want to do&quot; I try to make space for amongst my &quot;have to do's.&quot;</div></div></div><div><br/></div><div>If something from this holiday season gets you down, take time now to assess it so you can work towards changing it next year. Sometimes the solution is as simple as a little planning or mindfulness. Other times we have regrets or frustrations that touch deeper matters of the heart, and we have to look below the surface: Were your values compromised? Was there something you wish you had stood up for? Did you veer from your own vision to make other people happy?</div><div><br/></div><div>It may be uncomfortable at first, but doing this now can genuinely empower you to get the kind of Christmas you really want next year. We talked a lot about this in one of our summer time podcast episodes, <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bonus-family-vacations-and-how-to-survive-them/id1839017817?i=1000725930096" target="_blank" rel="">&quot;Family Vacations (and how to survive them)&quot;</a> - if you this is something you're dealing with I really encourage you to listen to this specific episode.</div><div><br/></div><div>Helping parents figure out <span style="font-style:italic;">how</span> they can prioritize their values without loosing their sanity is why Felicia and I do this work - if you’re feeling stuck on how to get more of what’s important to you and your family into your life (regardless of the season) don't give up! We have a lot of resources that help. We also invite you to schedule a time to chat with one of us about joining our beautiful community.</div></div><p></p></div>
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</div><div data-element-id="elm_2bmgLmPKOrMrlkzBlM7W7g" data-element-type="text" class="zpelement zpelem-text "><style></style><div class="zptext zptext-align-left zptext-align-mobile-left zptext-align-tablet-left " data-editor="true"><h4><span style="text-decoration-line:underline;">Get some more helpful tips:</span></h4><p><span style="text-decoration-line:underline;"><br/></span></p><p><strong>This quick read:</strong></p><p>-&nbsp;<a href="https://www.theparentempowermentmovement.com/blogs/post/beat-holiday-burnout-3-things-rule" rel="">How to Beat Holiday Burnout with the &quot;3 Things Rule&quot; for Parents</a></p><p><br/></p><p><strong>Related podcast episodes&nbsp;<span><span style="font-style:italic;">(available on Spotify and Apple Podcasts):</span></span></strong></p><p>-&nbsp;<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ber-months-how-to-survive-the-holiday-rush/id1839017817?i=1000738997844" rel=""><span style="text-decoration-line:underline;">Season 2, Episode 13</span> - The &quot;Ber&quot; Months: How to Survive the Holiday Rush Without Burning Out</a></p><p>-&nbsp;<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bonus-family-vacations-and-how-to-survive-them/id1839017817?i=1000725930096" title="Season 1, Episode 11 - Family Vacations (and how to survive them)" rel=""><span style="text-decoration-line:underline;">Season 1, Episode 11</span> - Family Vacations (and how to survive them)</a></p><p><br/></p><p><strong>YouTube watch:</strong></p><p><span style="font-weight:700;">-&nbsp;</span><a href="https://youtu.be/kcn3mM7v5fU" title="Not a Mom Fail (Christmas Version)" target="_blank" rel="">Not a Mom Fail (Christmas Version)</a></p></div>
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